Thursday, August 20, 2009

What Can I Give?

I was helping Susan bake a cake and assisting Bruce with his office work for Kolo this morning. "Whew," I said. "I need a break!"

Now I am reading Eknath Easwaran, Thought for the Day. WOW! It reminds me of me. He writes:

Beauty is all very well at first sight; but who ever looks at it when it has been in the house three days?
– George Bernard Shaw

"Often we try to build relationships on what is pleasing to us, particularly on physical attraction. But if there is anything sure about physical attraction, it is that it has to change. We cannot build on it; its very nature is to come and go.

"Physical attraction is a sensation – here one minute and gone the next. Love is a relationship. It is pleasant to be with someone who is physically attractive, but how long can you enjoy an aquiline nose? How long can you thrill to the timbre of a voice when it doesn’t say what you like? It’s very much like eating: no matter how much you are attracted to chocolate pie, there is a limit to how much of it you can enjoy. Beyond that limit, if somebody merely mentions chocolate, your stomach stages a revolt.

"If you want to build a relationship, build it on what endures. To build on a firm foundation, we have to stop asking, “What do I like?” and ask only, “What can I give?” Then there is joy in everything, because there is joy in the relationship itself – in ups and downs, through the pleasant and the unpleasant, in sickness and in health."

I think I give. Giving love--and help--to Susan and Bruce (And others!) all the time. That's why I'm a cat; the cat Nadine.


  1. What a sweet post and a lovely photo of you Miss Nadine. We hope Bruce is enjoying his new specail job.

  2. A very sweet post indeed. Nadine is full of wisdom